On Sunday Elliot was one month old. It seems like he has been a part of the family for a long time, yet it’s only been a little over four weeks. (Of course, some of that feeling probably comes from the fact that I’m not sleeping more than three hours at a time…) We’ve been asked over and over how we’re adjusting to being a family of four (rather well, if you’re curious), and I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how little stress I feel compared to when Caleb was a baby. At least, I don’t have nearly as much of the “am I doing it right?” stress. I’m learning that having a second baby brings different kinds of stresses and joys than the first baby.
- Less Sleep
Common sense tells me that I’m going to sleep less now that there’s another child in the house, but for some reason I was surprised by how tired I’ve been. It actually took a week or two for me to realize that I’m more tired because I nap less with Elliot than I did when Caleb was a baby. Little sleep heightens my emotions, so it’s been a little bit of a roller coaster ride.
- The Big Brother
I wasn’t sure how Caleb would adjust to being a big brother, but he is doing great and is a big help. For example, when we were at church this morning for Bible study, some of the other kids were trying to rock Elliot in his carseat and Caleb got upset – trying to push the other kids away, saying “he’s my baby”. While I don’t want him to be too possessive of Elliot or get jealous because the other kids are trying to help, I love that he has started to bond with his little brother.It’s definitely been different juggling caring for a baby with caring for a preschooler, and sometimes I feel guilty because I think I’m not interacting with Elliot enough, but then I see Caleb run up and sing Elliot a song because he is crying. That’s been a reminder that Elliot doesn’t just have Hans and I – he has a big brother, too!
- New Parent Stress
Like I said above, this time around I have felt much less of the “am I doing it right?” stress since a lot of the actions of caring for a new baby seemed to come back naturally – I have just enjoyed taking care of the baby instead of worrying about doing it “right”. But Elliot has been a gassy baby from day one, and has had a lot of pain (and therefore, lots of crying). The stressful part is trying to figure out what to do to help him feel better. He was put on medicine to help with reflux, but the medicine seems to make it worse, so we’ll see what the doctor says.
I could keep coming up with differences, but it doesn’t matter. Elliot is a different child than Caleb and I am enjoying having him in our family. It will be fun to see how he is like his big brother and how he is different as the days and weeks progress. And it will be fun to continue to see Caleb and Elliot’s relationship grow, too!
Elliot Andrés (Andrew in Spanish) was born on Thursday, March 19, at 3:36 pm, after 15 hours of labor. We had an exciting trip to the hospital in the middle of the night, since the Portage Lake lift bridge was closed for maintenance when we needed to cross. I never expected to need to call 911 on the way to the hospital to ensure that we could cross the bridge, but that’s what we had to do, and a police squad car came to let us on the bridge.
But other than that, Elliot’s delivery was pretty normal (at least, that’s what I was told – I don’t exactly have anything to compare it to!) and we now have another healthy little boy in our house! I am enjoying all of the snuggles that he gives, and it has been really fun to see how excited Caleb is to help us with Elliot. He is very observant of how we take care of Elliot and has started doing things on his own to help. (For example, he will come pat Elliot on the back when he is fussy. It is really quite precious.)
But that’s enough info… I know you really just want to see pictures!
I’ve been trying to figure out the best way to share our happy news with the (online) world. Most people close to us know already, and for a variety of reasons, I’m hesitant to share with everyone and anyone.
Not that it’s bad news – it’s very, very good news: we’re having a baby!! March 14, 2015, is baby’s due date, and in my opinion, it happens to be the one of the coolest Pi Days in this century (3/14/15 – the first five digits of pi are 3.1415, although properly rounded it is 3.1416…)
This time around I’ve had a hard time deciding how and when to share the news with social media. I know what it feels like to miscarry and then watch pregnancy announcements and new baby photos flood my Facebook feed. I know I have friends going through losses of their own right now. And so, I feel reluctance to share with Facebook, and somewhat, on the blog.
But God has blessed us with a new life, and it would be wrong not to celebrate. We’re excited to have this little one join us and it’s been fun introducing Caleb to the idea of a baby in the house. Every once in a while he will put his hand on my belly and proudly announce that he “feels the baby.” (Which, I might add, is currently impossible. Soon enough!)
Sometimes I’m still scared that something might happen during this pregnancy, but I know that God is in control of my life and the baby’s life, and I’m doing my best to trust Him, regardless of what happens.
We are very excited to announce that we are having a “ybab” to fit in those little socks! They were the first baby gift we’ve received, from new friends who stayed with us in late January during the youth evangelism crusade in Cochabamba. When they found out we were having a baby, they were so excited they went out and found a gift!
Unfortunately, I haven’t been enjoying the pregnancy much so far (it’s not nearly as glamorous as the movies make it out to be!) but we are still very excited!! We had an ultrasound last week that showed us our baby moving around and we heard its heartbeat – It was amazing!!
We expect baby Nyberg in late August and are looking forward to meeting him or her!