One Month Old
On Sunday Elliot was one month old. It seems like he has been a part of the family for a long time, yet it’s only been a little over four weeks. (Of course, some of that feeling probably comes from the fact that I’m not sleeping more than three hours at a time…) We’ve been asked over and over how we’re adjusting to being a family of four (rather well, if you’re curious), and I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how little stress I feel compared to when Caleb was a baby. At least, I don’t have nearly as much of the “am I doing it right?” stress. I’m learning that having a second baby brings different kinds of stresses and joys than the first baby.
- Less Sleep
Common sense tells me that I’m going to sleep less now that there’s another child in the house, but for some reason I was surprised by how tired I’ve been. It actually took a week or two for me to realize that I’m more tired because I nap less with Elliot than I did when Caleb was a baby. Little sleep heightens my emotions, so it’s been a little bit of a roller coaster ride.
- The Big Brother
I wasn’t sure how Caleb would adjust to being a big brother, but he is doing great and is a big help. For example, when we were at church this morning for Bible study, some of the other kids were trying to rock Elliot in his carseat and Caleb got upset – trying to push the other kids away, saying “he’s my baby”. While I don’t want him to be too possessive of Elliot or get jealous because the other kids are trying to help, I love that he has started to bond with his little brother.It’s definitely been different juggling caring for a baby with caring for a preschooler, and sometimes I feel guilty because I think I’m not interacting with Elliot enough, but then I see Caleb run up and sing Elliot a song because he is crying. That’s been a reminder that Elliot doesn’t just have Hans and I – he has a big brother, too!
- New Parent Stress
Like I said above, this time around I have felt much less of the “am I doing it right?” stress since a lot of the actions of caring for a new baby seemed to come back naturally – I have just enjoyed taking care of the baby instead of worrying about doing it “right”. But Elliot has been a gassy baby from day one, and has had a lot of pain (and therefore, lots of crying). The stressful part is trying to figure out what to do to help him feel better. He was put on medicine to help with reflux, but the medicine seems to make it worse, so we’ll see what the doctor says.
I could keep coming up with differences, but it doesn’t matter. Elliot is a different child than Caleb and I am enjoying having him in our family. It will be fun to see how he is like his big brother and how he is different as the days and weeks progress. And it will be fun to continue to see Caleb and Elliot’s relationship grow, too!